[leoskee]

Quote: Originally Posted by duke62 watch the mother in law thing.when i had my first child i was 20.living at my inlaws.i was very close to my mother inlaw.afterv the baby was born she took over.telling me what to do.gave my son his first bath while i wasnt there.when i changed him for the first time she bumped me with her hips and told me she got it.we got into a bad fight over everything that stressed my wife and i to a point we almost broke up.not saying its going to happen to you but i will sit her down and get the ground rules out of the way so there is no tension.trust me it can happen

My mother-in-law made plans of staying with us with out even telling my wife and I. When she said it at dinner I almost choked. I didnt even think twice before telling her that she was not welcomed. I could easily see her doing what Duke62's MIL did. Im not a deadbeat dad. I want to be there for everything I can. Im actually looking forward to having to get up to take care of my child. Regardless of whether I get enough sleep or not.

The sign they taught us at the class we took was to pay attention to the 5-1-1. That is: Contractions that are spaced out 5 minutes apart, lasting 1 minute long and take place over the course of 1 hour. When that happens it is time to go to the hospital.

My baby is due December 8th but I have a feeling it will be sooner than later.

[NYreefNoob]

all i can say is having a child is the greastest thing in the world { even better than having your dream reef tank }, enjoy they grow so fast and learn even quicker. oh and a few thing's buy a bottle warmer, use the Dr brown bottle's this will help with keeping the gs down in the baby, invest in alot of diaper's , break all bad habits while they are young. easier now then later. and most importantly, tell you wife how beautiful she is everyday and how much you love and respect her. she ill need it for a little while, and even if she doesnt they love to here it. you having a baby at the bad time of the year to though, a normal 5 minute run to the store takes a 1\2 hour now, got to get them bundled up the car warmed up ect. mine just turned 3 and was born in october. oh i am a night time mom which is great cause of the individual time i get, dont miss nothing cause it isnt replaceable, best of luck { you naming the baby after a coral ? }

[Awibrandy]

Guess what? You are 100% right! Your mom is feeling put out by your mother inlaw staying with you guys. I know she doesn't want to say it, and is probably feeling guilty that she is resenting the fact that the inlaw is going to be there 24/7. Your mom would more then likely feels that the other grandma is going to take over all the bonding with the baby. Please try to make sure your mom has equal opportunity to bond with her new grandchild. Talk to your wife about all your concerns before your mother inlaw gets there. It will be best for your wife to set the rules with her mom then for you. Her mom will take things better coming from her daughter. And like wise you can talk to your mom letting her know that you are aware of how she must be feeling. You can tell your mom (remind her), that in most cultures the woman's mother is the one expected to help her daughter with her new baby. That may make her feel a little better, and not feel like she is being pushed away. Besides all these worries may very well be totally unfounded. God willing both grandmas will get along just great, and you and your wife both will get plenty of help when you most need it. Once the grandmas leave you will both be on your owen with the baby who happen to be very demanding. But a tremendous joy none the less.
I wish you all the very best.