Overflow and Return
Now I'm gettin' confused!!
OK. You have a drilled tank with and overflow pipe, right?
The pipe can only drain a certain amount of water, so you're worried that the return pump will pump MORE than the drain can handle? Or LESS than the drain can handle?
If you're worried the pump will return MORE than the drain can handle, you place a ball valve AFTER the pump (never, never before the pump- do not restrict the intake). Use the ball valve to restrict the return flow until you match the drain, and reach the equilibrium point you want in the sump.
If you're worried that the pump will return LESS than the drain is going pour down toward the sump..... This is where I'm confused. Your drain pipe is only letting water in at the top of the pipe, correct? Once the water reaches the top of the pipe, it starts to drain down to the sump. It can only drain the same amount the pump sends up.....