OK... I got a question. I post up 2 head of green hammer and Jay wants them.... afterward he posted a red micro that I'm interested in... Now would this be a trade? and not acceptable by the few DBTC guildlines?
For BAR, that sounds like a trade, which is kind of the antithesis of DBTC.
However, if you meet his guidelines and he isn't giving it to you because of the hammer, there is every reason for you both to get the corals. Once its posted as a DBTC, thats what it is.
Something I have seen a lot is that people offer 1 or 2 frags in DBTC while they still have one or two or their own in reserve for trades that come up. What I have seen more, is people getting wait listed for a particular frag - that way second and third generations already have homes before they are even grown!