Anemone husbandry involves understanding what part of the reef the anemone typically inhabits, then trying to replicate that part as best you can in your tank.
Substrate selection is highly dependent on the species. Some prefer hard smooth substrate to attach to, some prefer in the sand. BTA's prefer a hard smooth surface, but need to attach to either a crevasse, overhang or a cave, because BTA's like to hide their pedal disk -- i.e., sheltered from light and current. But note - not the oral disk and tentacles. These need to be IN the light and IN the current. BTA's like it both ways.
Lighting is important for the long-term health of the anemones. Things to look at include intensity and spectrum. I'd venture that spectrum is likely more important than intensity, but only slightly so. You can get by with low intensity so long as there is appropriate spectrum, but there's no question that they do better with more lighting.
Feeding is also important. There has been some debate over this topic over the years, but this is the way I look at it. If an animal has a mouth, odds are it needs to eat. Anemones with symbiotic zooxanthellae, obviously derive some of their energy requirements from light, and this is the point that's debated: whether they can meet all of their requirements or just some. Personally, I lean to the side of the argument that says it is "some, but not all." As I understand it, the metabolic energy units derived from light tends to be more along the lines of complex sugars, i.e., high-energy, quick-release. So basically it's like eating candy bars or those energy bars that athletes use. But can you sustain yourself indefinitely on a diet like that? Probably not, at some point you need proteins for growth of tissue and so on. So feeding is, IMO, impossible to get away from.
Some people suggest that all the metabolic requirements could be met entirely by feeding, and thus they suggest a lesser importance on lighting. Personally I think this is too far in the other direction. It may be theoretically possible, but for our purposes, we shouldn't try to attempt this. Our best odds of success involve working in the space created by the span of both lighting AND feeding.
Choice of food, like choice of substrate, is also dependent on species. Some prefer shrimpy/crustacean type meat, others fish flesh, and the aggressiveness of the feeding response varies greatly from species to species. For example, carpets can be aggressive fish eaters (generally speaking the fish still has to blunder into the anemone, but once it has done so, there's no escape), but BTA's tend to be content with opportunistic scavenging (i.e., if a piece of dead shrimp happens to fall on it, it will eat it, but it won't really try to catch live shrimp that venture too close).
That said, one food that seems to be universally accepted among the different species, in my experience, is mysis shrimp. The FW mysis you can get has the highest protein content out of any food available, bar none. I've seen some amazing turnarounds that I attribute to that. SW mysis looks similar, but has nowhere near comparable levels of protein.
Current is also important. The dynamics of current can be a very challenging aspect of the hobby to work with. Generally speaking, the more indirect current you can produce, the better. Also alternating currents are "better" than steady-state/laminar flows. Never use direct stream-type current such as the output of a powerhead. However, two powerheads pointing at each other will create an awesome form of randomized indirect current at the points where the streams meet.
Generally speaking, I feel it is a bad idea to overload a system with anemones, because they can interact with each other. Either by direct touch, or even by more diffuse means (i.e., they might never touch one another, but they may be chemically interacting through a process called "allelopathic inhibition"). Allelopathy is when one species inhibits the metabolism of another that it may be competing with for resources. Whether this happens in anemones may be subject to some debate, but personally I feel it does happen.
It is possible to get away with it for short periods of time, however, I feel it is best to not plan for multiple individuals (unless they are clonal siblings) in the same tank, indefinitely.
The period of time following collection/distribution and retail is very stressful period of time for an anemone. The sad reality is that a lot don't make it. It is probably best to limit "saving" anemones to one at a time. If you can nurse it along to the point where it has adapted to life in captivity, and can provide for its needs appropriate, it can be hardy individual that seems "easy" to care for. But if its needs aren't being met and it's stressed, it will likely eventually perish, and for reasons that may seem not-very-obvious. That's why I suggest that if you're new to anemones, it's better to limit yourself to one individual, and even better to try to find a captive cloned specimen from someone because 1) not only has it proved to be a survivor, 2) you can learn from the setup where it came from.
Has any of this answered your questions yet?
For my BTA's, I try to keep them in a spot where they can hide their pedal foot (their "foot") somewhere out of sight, but they are able to get their tentacles out into the current and light. I also have metal halides over my tanks. I feed mysis every day, and I try to ensure that each individual gets several pieces per day.
You don't generally need to feed daily, however. A small piece of shrimp from the grocery store, once or twice per week, is more than adequate.
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-Tony