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Paul B

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Lately I have been learning more than I ever wanted to about nursing homes.
It is something we never think about unless we actually have to go there for something. Some of these places are just hell holes and I am very surprised they are allowed to stay in business, and a very good business it is.
But a few of them are a Godsend and the people working there are like angels.
My Mother who is 98 is in a good one now but she was in a place lower than Hell.
A couple of days before Halloween I complained to the administrator that they should take the head nurse on my Mother's floor and hang her outside on Halloween as the wicked witch of the west.
I never met such a ***** in my life.
And these places charge $8,000 to $10,000 a month. Yes a month.
Anyway, my Mom was admitted to one of these places two years ago when she diden't wake up one day and was given an hour to live. We got the priest and called the funeral home to order the casket and make arrangements.
She woke up in the elevator and is still living but just barely. Physically, there is nothing wrong with her and she is given no medications but Her mind is gone from dementia which is basically old age.
I think any day I will get a call that she passed away but this has been going on for a long time. She is in a wheelchair but is just about in a coma. No response at all. I used to be able to yell MOM and she would turn her head a little but now I get nothing.
I said this last year but I hope she doesen't pass away on or just before Christmas.
 

Bob 1000

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Sorry to here about all these negative happenings and people around your mom.. But on a brighter note she has lived a full like being 98 and all.. Also atleast she still ha syou to go there and make sure conditions aren't sub standard.. Don't be a afraid to go there and raise hell if you feel like things aren't right, this is your mom.. Ask for the person in charge of everything and give them hell.. I hope all turns out well for you and your family...
Happy Holidays..
 

juan319

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Sorry about what your mother went through. Like you wrote, we never realize how some nursing homes treat their patients and get away with it because the relatives do not express their concerns and/or do not know who to complaint to. My wife worked for several nursing homes and she said that goes on in these places is unbeliveable.
 

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Your mom is lucky to have you. My mom is a nurse who works in the alzheimer's ward at a nursing home. She said that many of them NEVER have visitors. The only love they get is from people like my mom.
 

Paul B

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My Mom has been in a nursing home for two years and an assisted living for dementia patients for two years before that. She was great up until she was 94. Never took a pill, not even an aspirin or wore glasses.
She was in the first hell hole because she was in Hospice until they decided she wasen't dying right away so we had to move her that day. The hospital recomended the hell hole. I got her out of there into a great place as soon as I could get a place to take her. They are all pretty well booked up in NY and we have loads of them.
We visit at least once a week and always have. We had a birth day party for her there last week when she made it to 98, not that she is aware of anything.
 

MikeyZO

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Sorry to hear about your mom, she's in my prayers.

On a side note, my mom works in a nursing home here on the Island and from what I understand, they are a good one. But every now and then she comes home with horror stories about other homes told to her by the hospital social workers that she deals with all the time. Its really sad.
 

Paul B

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Mikey my Mom is in what is supposed to be the best one on the island. It is Ozamnam Hall run by Carmilite Nuns. Her she was about a year ago in the dump
She was never this hea
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vy in her life.
She was 97 here.
 

MikeyZO

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Its a shame when the people you trust and pay to look after your loved ones totally disregard everything they were hired to do. Really sorry. One can only hope shes confortable now and feeling no pain. Again, youre both in my prayers :(
 

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