Thanks everybody for the Mojo. A little update. My son actually took it ok. He said he Knows she was sick and he only hopes that she feels better now (such a mature boy for 12, he is always suprising me) My daughter however 8yo. Was a basket case and still is. She is having a hard time with it.
I of course have good moments and bad,, but like all things. It will get easier over time.
Thanks Again everybody for your thoughts and sympathy